Sunday, October 8, 2023

Birthday and Family Get-Together

I turned 57 on Thursday. I also worked from 7:30 am until 8:30 pm. LOL.

Not the way I'd choose to spend my birthday morning, but I saw many friends, former students, etc. 

I helped with registration for FCCLA's Fall Leadership conference. I am on the state board for FCCLA, representing BYU. I helped at a fundraising table and helped a student find his group. They are cute little guys, trying to do great things. They are learning to be leaders.

I then went to the lab where we had SFLSA Lunch with Professors. I'm one of the faculty advisors for SFLSA and we have a monthly get-together for students to meet professors in a casual setting. They asked questions about graduate school, career goals, work/family balance, etc. We had a great turnout. The SFLSA presidency and board are working hard to create meaningful activities for the students. Dr. Loren Marks, Dr. Daye Son, and Dr. Nathan Leonhardt came, as did about 20 students. I got to bear my testimony of listening to promptings and tell how my mission led to graduate school and where I am at work now.  

Note from my work next door neighbor, Ashley LeBaron-Black

215 meets on Thursdays for lab, so I got to spend the afternoon with them. They made eclairs and muffins. They used a food scale to weigh ingredients and mostly made successful choux pastry. One kitchen's didn't work out. I'll try to find time for them to try again. I brought mini cupcakes for them and shared with them that I'm very easy to please...I love bakery cake and pizza. 

Melia, Kamiko, and Bekki took me to Joe Vera's for Mexican food for dinner. We had a great time. I got yummy beef and cheese enchiladas, which I enjoyed the next night for dinner. Kamiko had to remind me that I was complaining about work. He told me to talk about anything else. I'm going to work on that. After dinner, I came home to join a webinar for my calling as an education mentor. 

Mom and dad came over at 8:30 and brought me flowers and a card. Mom was able to write in the card. She usually can't write because of the hand tremor that she has. It's a special treat to have the card. 

So, it was a busy day that didn't allow for much fun me time. 

I made up for it by taking my car to the mechanic on Friday. They had my car all day, which meant that I couldn't go into work. Instead, I slept in, went on a walk with Danelle, read for work, went to lunch with Danelle, took a nap, answered emails and did more reading. After picking up my car, I went to the outlet mall to use some birthday coupons. I got a nice white shirt and some black pants that will be great for work. 

Saturday I got up and went on a run.

I cleaned some, did some weeding, called Cathy Voorhees and Maria (since we hadn't talked on my birthday), and took a short nap before showering and getting ready for a family event. 


Me, Derek, Kristen, Karen, Debbie, mom and dad

The whole gang, minus James who took the picture

Derek, Kristen and Doug, and Karen and Alan came to town to have a gathering at Debbie and Mark's house. We got bad news about a month ago that Mark has a rare pancreatic cancer. It's treatable, but not curable. He starts chemotherapy tomorrow. The prognosis isn't great, so Derek suggested we all get together. We met yesterday afternoon, got pizza, and visited. I made chocolate chip pound cake. We also had 7-layer Mexican dip and a cheese and cracker plate. Allison, James, Audrey, and Mac came, as did Haley, Todd, Luke, Hazel, and Davis. The kiddos had fun playing. Carolyn and Val were also in town. It's really sad to think that Mark won't be around for long, and that he'll be sick. I hope he's not in too much pain, but I'm not hopeful that it will be the case. I haven't heard anything good about cancer treatment. 

Debbie has a lot of support. We got them a care package of a cooler, ice packs, snacks, hard candies, and cash for takeout on hard days. All of their kids and grandkids (except Jentrie McGee who is on a mission in Louisiana) came for a reunion last week. 

Pre-birthday festivities included my annual dinner and movie with Jamie. We met in Vineyard and decided to split pizza and get ice cream then we saw "A Haunting in Venice." It's based on an Agatha Christie book. It was scary at first. We wondered if we'd be able to fall asleep that night. We had a great time. I gave her some chocolates and a scarf that I picked up in Edinburgh. She gave me the cutest haunted house quilted picture and a pumpkin candle that smells amazing. Jamie and I are lucky to have each other. She's been a great friend for many many years. 

Ashley, Emily, Mel and me

On Tuesday, Mel and I had tickets to a jazz concert on campus. It was an ensemble from Harlem that played numbers celebrating 100 years of Disney. It was soooo fun. Kamiko and Bekki were supposed to come, but Kamiko got stuck at work. So, I invited Emily Burdette and Ashley Berges, both study abroad participants and Disney girls, to join us. We had a great time. 

Looking Back at my Back-to-School Blessing for Some Guidance

I spent the morning of my 57th birthday helping with FCCLA Fall Leadership

To say the last couple of weeks at work have been difficult would be an understatement!

I guess it's that time of year where excuses and weird questions just wear on me. 

I decided to remember the blessing Kamiko gave me and think of what I can do better. I'm reminded that Heavenly Father is aware of my students and their limitations. He is also aware of me and I have the power to make change in my work life. I can make decisions to leave work at work. I can make decisions to be positive and to not wallow it what is weighing me down. Here are some examples of the crazy stuff this semester:

a student in my colleague's class who doesn't work in lab without being told exactly what to do. He says it's due to his autism. Therefore, my colleague will probably change the seating chart weekly to spread him around. 

a student who wants to complete the protein lab with a meat substitute. You can't really learn how to cook with meat without cooking with meat. 

a student who prefers to not tie her hair back in lab so scars don't show. I will suggest turtle necks or scarves. I will also make sure she's getting the emotional and psychological support she needs.

a student who forgot to take a quiz, thinking they closed in the morning, not at midnight.

a student who has received 0's on her cooking assignments because she misunderstood the instructions and didn't ask until now what she can do. 

That's just in 6 weeks. I'm probably forgetting something. 

I was reading in the New Testament, catching up from a couple of weeks of being behind and I read a few verses that were helpful as I contemplate how to work through this and not make my negative attitude a permanent part of my personality. 

Ephesians 4:29-31 cautions against anger, bitterness, evil speaking, and wrath. I think a way I can keep those things at bay is to start my day with gospel study. 

Galatians 5:22-23 talks of the fruits of the spirit, which I desire to have. It would be much better to be surrounded by joy, love, longsuffering, and gentleness, than by the above. Again, a bit of gospel study or conference in the morning should help. 

I remember that I was hopeful in August. I just want to get back to that spot. 

Sunday, October 1, 2023

October General Conference 2023


President Nelson fell 2 days after his 99th birthday and is watching conference in his home. Elder Holland is also watching from home. He and his wife had Covid and his wife passed away in July. 

Saturday Morning

Elder Bednar: Pioneers and Stalwart Souls "They of the Last Wagon"

People who serve without ever being seen or acknowledged

Great things are prepared for those who wait upon God

Be stalwart

Sister Amy Wright: Spiritual Preparedness, parable of 10 virgins

Be prepared

Peace amidst a cancer diagnosis. Everything will be OK

Elder Daines: Face blindness

See God and know that He sees us

See God by learning about Him, to serve in this church is to stand in the river of God's love for his children

Elder Godoy: Taxi driver picked up Elder Godoy. Cab driver was less active member who came back to church because of their interaction. 

He felt his children would be happier in life with the influence of the Gospel

Our decisions today will impact future generations

Reshape your path, if needed, for the sake of your posterity

Be faithful

Elder Christofferson: Gathering of Israel, the most important thing happening today on the earth

Sealing powers are crucial for gathering

Divorce only breaks one link in the chain, but the chain can be repaired

All temple blessings await the faithful

READ THIS ONE FIRST!

Elder Ardern: Experiences and things he saw in Uganda - poverty and sickness

Good Samaritan "Love thy neighbor"

Compassion is an attribute of Christ

5 loaves and 2 fishes made all the difference

Do what I can do and the Lord will make up the difference

Praise for church humanitarian efforts

Bear one another's burdens, bind up the broken hearts, love thy neighbor

President Oaks: Proclamation on the Family and Plan of Happiness

We get to choose where we will dwell in the eternities

We will dwell where we are most comfortable

Salvation is an individual matter; exaltation is a family matter

Blessings of sealed relationship will be available to all who keep covenants

Saturday Afternoon

While sustaining and releasing area 70's, they instructed us to find their names on the church website. That was new and interesting.

Elder Andersen: tithing, "Prove me now, herewith..." only stated once in the scriptures

Blessings always come

Being honest in our tithes is one way we can show that we put the Lord first

Trust in the Lord and the blessings will follow

Don't compare what you have with others and be careful about wanting more. Paying tithing will help us know that we have enough.

Elder Newman: Jesus blesses the children in America and weeps. Those children grew up to build a society of love and unity that lasted decades. 

Bring our little ones to Jesus. 

The wise man dug deep to build the foundation for his house on a rock. We need to dig deep. Keep digging until we find Him. 

The spirit can bring about a mighty change

Covenants that parents make are often not carried on by their children.

Sometimes children don't believe "the traditions of their fathers." 

How can we instill in the hearts of our children the desire to make and keep sacred covenants?

Talk of Christ, rejoice in Christ, keep the voice of covenant people alive, Christ is not a Sunday only        topic

Learn from each other in parent - teacher council meetings

We are doing better than we think

Children may forget the Savior for a season, but He will never forget them. I know my parents are just, for they taught me in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

Elder Costa: Faith in Jesus Christ

Sometimes we feel we don't have the energy to have faith, but faith gives us the energy. 

Wake up and say a prayer and read a scripture - helps us to always remember Him.

Elder Stevenson: Spiritual gifts

constant companionship of the Holy Ghost is vital spiritual gift

recognize and follow promptings of HG

Stand in holy places - BYU is dedicated. It is a holy place

Stand with holy people

Testify of truths when I can

Listen to the Holy Spirit - sometimes we are too busy to hear the quiet impressions - find quiet places

Elder Choi: Want to be happy? Make and keep covenants

We have access go eternal power when we stay on the covenant path

When God speaks and we obey, we will always be right

When we keep the commandments, our lives are less complicated and challenges are easier to bear

Serve in the church, no matter how difficult a calling or no matter how insignificant a calling

Elder Phillips: Our divine identity and God's love for His children

Joy at being reunited with 5-year-old son who didn't get in car after stop at service station on road trip

Religion is not only about our relationship with God, but it is also about our relationship with others

Judge less; love more!

We are not and do not need to do things alone - take His yoke upon me

He is the refuge from the storms

To Gen Z and Gen Alpha, faith takes work. Prayers are answered and answers can be felt. 

Turn to God in spiritual dissonance. Pour out your heart to your Heavenly Father. Ask if He is really there and if He knows you. Ask how He feels about you and listen. 

THIS IS PERFECT FOR MY 215 STUDENTS!

Elder Rasband: Gathering of Israel

Nothing else compares to it in importance! To gather Israel, we need missionaries. 

Message is to senior missionaries who could be serving all over the world

He that soweth and he that reapeth may rejoice together

Sunday Morning

Elder Ballard: Gratitude for Joseph Smith

(He did not read a prepared talk because his eyesight is too poor. These remarks were from his heart.)

We thank the Lord for Joseph Smith and for his courage to go to the grove of trees and pray

Think of all the things we know and the understanding we have because of Joseph Smith

We know who we are, we know who God is, we know who the Savior is because of Joseph

Gratitude for those who sustained Joseph Smith in his youth

His mother believed him from the beginning

His father and his brothers and sisters sustained him in his tremendous responsibility

May we be better because of our attendance at General Conference. May we feel the power of heaven as we worship together. 

NOTE: Elder Ballard was called as an apostle when I was a BYU student. His first speaking assignment as an apostle was to a missionary prep fireside held in the then Provo Tabernacle. He is now 95 years old. 

Emily Belle Freeman: Walking the Jesus Trail "broken"

Walk with me! 

5 finger promise: i am with you, i will keep you safe, i will bring you home again, i will not leave you, i will keep my promise to you

Blessings come in God's time and in His way

Jesus will meet us where we are and how we are

Staying where we are doesn't work. We need to ascend with His help

What degree of relationship do I want with Jesus Christ? It's up to me...garments, temple and church attendance, service, kindness, love, etc. 

Elder Parrella: Take upon us the name of Jesus Christ by bearing testimony in word and deed

Use correct name of church to testify of Christ

Elder Cook: Peaceable followers of Christ face trials and tribulation

People die, people leave the covenant path, health challenges

We mourn and strive to bear one another's burdens

Bad things happen to good people - fires in Hawaii, Chile, Canada

Fear not little flock, do good. Look unto me in every thought. Doubt not. Fear not. 

Why do bad things happen to good people? Joseph Smith in Liberty Jail

Heavenly Father knows and loves us perfectly. He knows our trials perfectly. 

Come unto me and He gives us rest, strength, joy, peace, and consolation

Earth has no sorrow that heaven cannot heal

Thinking of Debbie and Mark during this talk as they navigate Mark's recent terminal cancer diagnosis. 

Elder Uchtdorf: The greatest short story every told - the Prodigal Son

The son must have felt freedom to make own choices without influence of parents and guilt

Live life on his own terms

The son who remained, worked with, and comforted the father

This story is about us

Bishop Waddell: Handcart rescue 

Go and bring in those people on the plains. 2 days after Brigham Young's call in conference, the first rescuers left 

Ephraim Hanks had a dream that he was to go rescue. He went alone and travelled quickly, passing other rescuers. He was a hero to the handcart pioneers.

Be careful of hero worship

Jesus Christ is our hero

President Eyring: the Lord speaks to us personally through the Holy Ghost

Pray and heed the Spirit's promptings to receive guidance through increasingly difficult days ahead

It won't be possible to survive spiritually without the guidance of the Holy Ghost

Letter to Elder Eyring's descendants to help them navigate the exciting days ahead

We do and say things that offend the Spirit

It is important to remember the promise each week as we partake of the sacrament - I can always have His Spirit to be with me

Feeling the Spirit is testament that the atonement is working in my life

Pray for companionship of the Holy Ghost

I must want it for the right purpose - for the Lord's purposes

The most important thing is that the Holy Ghost testifies that Jesus is the Christ

Sunday Afternoon

Elder Renlund: Search for King Tut's tomb. They almost gave up. ONE more season of excavation. Searched in the ground under their camp. The tomb was there. 

Overlooked what was literally under their feet

Looking beyond the mark = not recognizing what is right here

Despise plainness 

To receive the guidance of the Holy ghost, attend sacrament meeting and focus on the Savior during the administration of the sacrament

Seek the simple guidance from prophets and apostles - look no further

Elder Pingree: How to recognize and understand truth today

Truth is absolute and fixed, it can guide our actions and make us free, leading us to eternal life

God reveals truth through revelatory network: God, Holy Ghost, us, prophets

Doctrine (doesn't change) vs. policy (can change because it's due to circumstances and needs of church members)

Elder Cordon: Parenting lessons found in the scriptures and teachings of living prophets

Parenting requires Heavenly help

Make the gospel culture the predominant culture in our families

Home should be center of gospel learning

Teach freely. Teach early and generously

Spend meaningful time with children

Model discipleship

Set aside worldly distractions and keep the Sabbath Day holy

Invite to act - encourage children to use their agency to choose the right, to take charge of their testimony (as admonished by President Nelson)

Elder Kimo Clark: Missionary work and temple worship

Temples can heal political wounds

Bind in heaven what is bound on earth

Elder Gong: "Love is Spoken Here"

575 documented languages spoken in the church

Language of warmth and reverence - how do you know your parents love you? Warm respect in conversation with others

Language of service and sacrifice - gather at church, serve in our callings

Serving in the church helps us feel God's love and helps us love others

We can build new and meaningful relationships at church - ward activities

Language of covenant belonging - helps us get away from "I choose me." Lose your life for Christ's sake to find it. 

Elder Giraud-Carrier: Be careful of hearsay. Look for the truth. Look past the surface.

Lord sees us for who we are and ministers as needed

Try to see as the Lord sees

Labels divide us and restrict us

Labels lead to judging

The gospel of Jesus Christ is the great equalizer

If you don't walk like most people do, some people walk away from you, but I won't. I won't. ...

Love others because it is the right thing to do, not because they are doing the right thing.

President Nelson: more than 100 conference addresses standing - this one is pre-recorded as he sits

Each new day brings wonderful and challenging surprises

What have I learned in nearly a century of living?

Heavenly Father's plan for us is fabulous. 

What we do in this life really matters.

The Savior's atonement is what makes the Plan possible

Savior suffered pains, temptations, and afflictions so He can comfort us in times of need

He trembled because of pain and bled at every pore

President Nelson's injury has made him think of the Savior

"Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die" is an absurd lie

Think celestial!

Be spiritually-minded 

Mortality is a master class in learning to choose things of greatest importance

Too many people live this life as if there is nothing else

We get to choose: where you will live, what kind of body you will have, with whom you will live

Make the celestial kingdom my eternal goal

Don't let prayers sound like a shopping list

Prayers will be answered when we are honest and open. We'll be surprised.

Obsessions become gods. Watch addictions. Seek professional and spiritual help so you can follow God's fabulous plan. 

Few things will complicate your life more quickly than violating the Law of Chastity. Immorality is one of the quickest ways to lose one's testimony. 

Come unto Christ and seek forgiveness

View trials and opposition in a new light when thinking celestial

Don't question my testimony just because someone else is questioning!

There is no end to the adversaries deception - be prepared - seek guidance from the Holy Ghost and prophets, seers, and revelators

Do the spiritual work to increase capacity to receive personal revelation

20 temples announced, including Luanda, Angola (Jenny's mission), and Roanoke, Virginia (Kristen's mission)

Jenny sent this photo shortly after the announcement